The Transition Timeline

Many people have asked me about when various changes are going to happen. The most common question of which has been “when do I switch pronouns?” I want to answer that by publishing my timeline for transition. Why didn’t I publish it earlier? I didn’t finish it until this week! Please be aware: This is a highly detailed time line and may contain names of events that are uncomfortable or disturbing for you.

I want to make some overall notes before I put out the actual timeline:

  • Transition is just that, transition: It is a process over time. It is not an instant switch from boy to girl.
    • It will be a slow transition for all of us but at least with this timeline you can see when society may change to calling me a woman.
  • This is an attempt to document all possible changes, and give a general time frame for each, some changes may not occur or may occur at different time frames.
  • The idea is that I was a man before, I am currently in trans* land, in the future I may end as a woman, or stay in trans* land my whole life..
  • The general idea is to have a time of androgyny after coming out but before going feminine.
  • If at any point in this process I became satisfied with my physical appearance or the dysphoria stops… The transition ends immediately.
  • The above clause could result in me being neither completely girl, or completely boy. If that is the case my gender would be labeled as trans* for the rest of my life.
  • I am detailing things that have occurred in the past. This is an entire time line of being a transgender person.
    • Experiences may vary, if considering this process, please consult your own soul.
  • There is only one item with a specific date. Everything before that date I want to happen before that event. Everything after, happens after. I have used that event (and date) as the key to plan the rest of the process.
  • While this ordering is based on the name change, those are two “sections” of the transition. Events inside each section will potentially change order or time frames.
  • I have emphasized events that are relevant to people around me and their actions or wording. Also how I interact with society as a whole.

Okay, so now the actual transition timeline:

Well, a three year process if it goes all the way. Keep in mind there is still a lot up in the air. A lot of decision making still to do in regards to surgery. At this point I don’t know if I’m going to do or need any surgery. I’m kind of hoping I don’t. But there is some documentation where I cannot change my gender marker from Male to Female without some kind of surgery modification.

The only piece I’m really trying to get done on schedule is the name change. I think it would be very poetic to become Josephine on my 30th birthday. I’ve also divided it up by things I want to do before the name change and things I want to do after the name change. The order and dates inside those blocks are tentative and subject to change.

I hope this helps to answer some of the questions you all have been having, the most common of which is the “when do I change pronouns?” question. My answer to that question is that this is a transition for all of us. The deadline is March 2016. That is also the deadline for my changing pronouns in reference to myself. 😉

My goal in this was to not only answer questions for you guys, but answer questions for myself. This has been a couple weeks in the making, mostly inside my own head. I could always see in this transition where I was starting from and where I wanted to be but now that I’ve written this, I can also see a path to get there.

I want to impress one last time this is NOT  a quick process and it’s not just me transitioning. We are all Transitioning together to the idea of me being a woman. Some are picking it up quickly others (like myself) are having much more difficulty. But, we are all in this process together. ‘Tis a marathon, not a sprint.

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2 thoughts on “The Transition Timeline”

  1. Excellent. This answered many questions that I didn’t even know I had. Also I love the Process of Transition illustration, as it can be used in so many areas of life. I like that you have a plan but know you can re-evaluate and adjust at any time.

  2. Excellent. This answered many questions that I didn’t even know I had. Also I love the Process of Transition illustration, as it can be used in so many areas of life. I like that you have a plan but know you can re-evaluate and adjust at any time.

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