Many people have asked me about when various changes are going to happen. The most common question of which has been “when do I switch pronouns?” I want to answer that by publishing my timeline for transition. Why didn’t I publish it earlier? I didn’t finish it until this week! Please be aware: This is a highly detailed time line and may contain names of events that are uncomfortable or disturbing for you.
I want to make some overall notes before I put out the actual timeline:
- Transition is just that, transition: It is a process over time. It is not an instant switch from boy to girl.
- It will be a slow transition for all of us but at least with this timeline you can see when society may change to calling me a woman.
- This is an attempt to document all possible changes, and give a general time frame for each, some changes may not occur or may occur at different time frames.
- The idea is that I was a man before, I am currently in trans* land, in the future I may end as a woman, or stay in trans* land my whole life..
- The general idea is to have a time of androgyny after coming out but before going feminine.
- If at any point in this process I became satisfied with my physical appearance or the dysphoria stops… The transition ends immediately.
- The above clause could result in me being neither completely girl, or completely boy. If that is the case my gender would be labeled as trans* for the rest of my life.
- I am detailing things that have occurred in the past. This is an entire time line of being a transgender person.
- Experiences may vary, if considering this process, please consult your own soul.
- There is only one item with a specific date. Everything before that date I want to happen before that event. Everything after, happens after. I have used that event (and date) as the key to plan the rest of the process.
- While this ordering is based on the name change, those are two “sections” of the transition. Events inside each section will potentially change order or time frames.
- I have emphasized events that are relevant to people around me and their actions or wording. Also how I interact with society as a whole.
Okay, so now the actual transition timeline:
Well, a three year process if it goes all the way. Keep in mind there is still a lot up in the air. A lot of decision making still to do in regards to surgery. At this point I don’t know if I’m going to do or need any surgery. I’m kind of hoping I don’t. But there is some documentation where I cannot change my gender marker from Male to Female without some kind of surgery modification.
The only piece I’m really trying to get done on schedule is the name change. I think it would be very poetic to become Josephine on my 30th birthday. I’ve also divided it up by things I want to do before the name change and things I want to do after the name change. The order and dates inside those blocks are tentative and subject to change.
I hope this helps to answer some of the questions you all have been having, the most common of which is the “when do I change pronouns?” question. My answer to that question is that this is a transition for all of us. The deadline is March 2016. That is also the deadline for my changing pronouns in reference to myself. 😉
My goal in this was to not only answer questions for you guys, but answer questions for myself. This has been a couple weeks in the making, mostly inside my own head. I could always see in this transition where I was starting from and where I wanted to be but now that I’ve written this, I can also see a path to get there.
I want to impress one last time this is NOT a quick process and it’s not just me transitioning. We are all Transitioning together to the idea of me being a woman. Some are picking it up quickly others (like myself) are having much more difficulty. But, we are all in this process together. ‘Tis a marathon, not a sprint.